How Not To Unintentionally Hurt Someone's Feelings
posted by c5 in: psychology
"I was only joking. I had no idea it would hurt you. It was a simple joke."
There is no problem with joking around just to be funny. The problem is, some people get hurt. To others it may mean nothing (especially those who know that it's just your way of making fun) but to some, you may have caused broken hearts, ill feelings, which they bottle up, bring with them until they grow old, affecting their lives, their work, their family, everything....all because of you.
If you're a good person, you wouldn't want that to happen, would you?
I'm not saying you stop the fun. But you can choose who to make fun with, or of.
As most do spend the day at work, the fun usually happens at work. Most of the victims and culprits are co-workers.
How would you know, then, who you can SAFELY victimize and who NOT to victimize?
You'll need to do some research. A QUIET research. Look for their handwriting samples. As many as you can find. If you can't find any, you can let them write "doodle doo this, doodle doo that" in script (NOT print). Isn't that easy? Now what are you going to do with it?
Focus on the letters 'd' and 't' especially the stem.
The stems start retraced to bloated. The more bloated the stems are, the more that person gets easily offended. The third samples (d and t) should make you be very careful already.
Know when to stop. :)
There is no problem with joking around just to be funny. The problem is, some people get hurt. To others it may mean nothing (especially those who know that it's just your way of making fun) but to some, you may have caused broken hearts, ill feelings, which they bottle up, bring with them until they grow old, affecting their lives, their work, their family, everything....all because of you.
If you're a good person, you wouldn't want that to happen, would you?
I'm not saying you stop the fun. But you can choose who to make fun with, or of.
As most do spend the day at work, the fun usually happens at work. Most of the victims and culprits are co-workers.
How would you know, then, who you can SAFELY victimize and who NOT to victimize?
You'll need to do some research. A QUIET research. Look for their handwriting samples. As many as you can find. If you can't find any, you can let them write "doodle doo this, doodle doo that" in script (NOT print). Isn't that easy? Now what are you going to do with it?
Focus on the letters 'd' and 't' especially the stem.
The stems start retraced to bloated. The more bloated the stems are, the more that person gets easily offended. The third samples (d and t) should make you be very careful already.Know when to stop. :)